Help - My Sex Life is in a SLUMP
Q: My sex-life is in a slump. How do I keep it (and me) interested?
So, you remember those hot, sticky nights and you want that passion back. That hip thrusting, rubbing licking & rhythmic kind of sex that we all dream about. Well, I have some ideas.
In our hectic lives these days, we do not slow down often enough and allow ourselves to jut be, and feel, and breathe. We tune out. Good sex isn’t about any “move” or performance in the sack – it’s about knowing how to have fun, flirt and laugh with your partner. It’s about being able to relax and let yourself go in the moment. For a lot of us just clearing out the brain for a few moments seems like work. But tune in. Tune in to your partner and the sensations and enjoy yourself!
Ask for what you want.
If there is a thing your partner does that you love – communicate that! Every body is different and there is no right/wrong way to do anything. Speak up- maybe that is hard for you. Maybe you are so focused on your partner’s pleasure (ladies) that you have neglected your own. But if we don’t express our needs, we often end up settling for very little, or at least not enough pleasure. Keep an open mind and know that you both are trying to achieve the same pleasure goal – in whatever form that might take. You never know, step out of your routine and your box and you might discover something new!
Pretty things. Feeling pretty and sexy isn’t about how you look, it’s about how comfortable you are in your own skin. All bodies are beautiful and deserving of celebration and pleasure. So do what makes you feel pretty. Ugly panties? Throw em out. Pretty panties that are uncomfortable – throw em out. Wear that awesome new outfit! Get your hair did! Celebrate you and the skin you’re in. Feel good on the inside and the beauty permeates the outside.
The center of our sex lives is the bedroom. But is your bedroom sexy? Optimized for your own romantic sexy fun time? Well, time to clean, organize and create a bedroom that invites intimacy. You may not have to Build a Sex Room to make your lair for sexy fun time an inviting and sensual place. Move your sextoys to a convenient spot, adjust the lighting( maybe a red bulb or a blacklight). Create some ambiance and set yourselves up for success.
Read, explore and continue to learn about human anatomy and response. Find a sex blogger who you can relate to. Enjoy erotica, photos, fetish or toys. Go to your local sex toy shop and ask questions. The adult pleasure market is ever-evolving and growing. You owe it to yourself to find out what you are missing. Treat yourself– you deserve it!